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'Bridesmaids and groomsmen: what's the craziest request you've had to endure for a couple's wedding day?'

'Bridesmaids and groomsmen: what's the craziest request you've had to endure for a couple's wedding day?'

Written by Katie Byrne

When the question was asked on Reddit, people were quick to share their stories...


Wedding planning is a notoriously tricky task - and it's often those in the direct wedding party who can bear the brunt of the bride-or-groom-zilla wrath. 

One Reddit user took to the forum last week to ask 'maids and groomsmen to share their craziest experiences - and from hair dying to weight loss, beard-shaving to destination expectations, they certainly didn't disappoint. 

View the conversation in full here and browse our favourite anecdotes below.


#1 Faces in the crowd

"Outdoor wedding with no back up plan on the shores of lake Michigan. Pouring rain and wind but the happy couple requested no umbrellas because they wanted to be able to see the faces in the crowd. They were able to see the very wet and angry faces of people whose clothes were ruined while the bride and groom stayed dry under the gazebo." MajorMustard

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#2 Beard off

"My sister-in-law insisted that I shave off my beard for the photos - a beard I've had for over 10 years, and will probably have on my dying day (I look like a toddler clean-shaven). She was eventually talked down by my brother, who pointed out that in a year it would look like they had a complete stranger in all their wedding photos." - Caliblair



#3 Air con > paper fans

"Outdoors in August in Texas. 100+ degree weather and we're all sweating bullets trying not to pass out. All we got were these stupid paper fans. Seriously? If it's gonna be in August in the south, please have an air conditioned wedding." Potterless12

#4 Ear, ear

"The bride bought us all earrings to wear on the day. I was met with a blank look when I told her the holes in my ears were closed over a while ago.. so one of the other bridesmaids (who happens to have quite a weak stomach for this kind of thing) and I went into the other room and re-pierced my ears." - LeiPewPew

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#5 Booty call

"Maid of Honor to my sister's wedding. She asked me if I could sleep with her husband Best Man. In her words, "Jake's saying he wont go unless there is a guarantee lay for him. I know your single and everything..." I thought it was a joke at first. It wasnt. I of course said no. Surprise, Jake still showed up as Best Man without the promised booty." - nowadaykid



#6 Marilyn moment 

"My girlfriend was a bridesmaid and the bride wanted one of those pics where the bridesmaids lift their dresses to show their ass and the bride pretends to act all shocked. None of the girls were really down for it including my girlfriend since the dress was really tight and she was wearing a thong. Not to mention, the groomsmen and family members were hanging around. The bride got really upset because she saw the same kind of picture on Pinterest a few days earlier and wanted to replicate it. She stormed off in the middle of taking pictures and didn't return for about half an hour delaying the reception and their hungry wedding guests." - iamb3comedeath 

#7 Minor detail

"In college I was a best man for a wedding where the bride demanded we all wear designer suits. I had to sell a guitar to afford just the rental. I had no money before, and after I had no money and one less guitar. Then at the reception the groom pulled me aside and told me it was my job as best man to make sure their marriage went well. I was supposed to check in and help them with marriage stuff to make sure they didn't get divorced. I looked him in the eye and said I can't be responsible for your marriage. He didn't talk to me from that second until just a couple months ago. Six years after his wedding." - Bearded_Booty

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#8 On the fringe

"Bridesmaid to my sister. She demanded that I grow my fringe (bangs) out months before because quote "I don't want anyone's hair blowing in the wind, it all has to stay perfectly still. Also, i'm quite pale so she insisted I had to wear fake tan. I originally went bought a pale tan colour but the morning of the wedding she made me pile it on. It was pretty hot that day so subsequently, it stained my pale pink dress. Was still an amazing wedding regardless. Also, I like to think that when I get married I have two ridiculous request cards. Two things she has to do and I'll bring up her wedding if she refuses." - victoriangasbubble



#9 Hair, hair 

"My best friend asked me to dye my hair from blonde to brown, because her other bridesmaids all had brown hair and she wanted to be the only one with blonde hair. She did pay for me to get it done at a professional salon, so I didn't mind too much, and her photos did look amazing after. However, I definitely have a few friends who thought I was crazy for agreeing to that request." - charmedistheone

#10 Hawaii we go again...

"An old friend from high school decided to get married in Hawaii and invite us all. Most of us couldn't afford it, she gave us all ****, but still had a decent turnout and a nice wedding. Six months later "We're renewing our vows!" AGAIN in Hawaii. One year later: "We're renewing our vows!" Again in Hawaii. Six year anniversary coming up soon, sixth time they'll all be in Hawaii to get married again. With all the pomp. Last year barely anyone showed up, and she ranted on facebook for months about it. This year it's "Just so you all know we've already booked the biggest venue on the island so we expect you all to show up..." a few "it's a shame people disrespect your love" posts, but mainly no one responded. I only keep her as a friend for the schadenfreude at this point." - demderdemden



#11 No talking, no looking 

"I was a bridesmaid and my significant other was a groomsman, and we were banned from looking at, speaking to or dancing with each other for fear of 'out-cuting' the happy couple. We'd been together for five years at this point. We didn't do it, but the request alone was outrageous." - TheMackeroll

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#12 Cook for 200

"Got asked to stand up for a wedding during culinary school for a high school friend. She wanted to know if I could help with dinner. As in cooking for 200 people, having only done a year culinary school. She also wanted me to help pay for the food I'd be making. She wanted me to make caesar salad, potatoes au gratin, and roast enough ducks for 200, by myself, and pay for about half of it." - notasugarbabybutok

#13 Lose weight

"I was a size 8 at the time, and the bride called me the "fat" bridesmaid. She wanted her all bridesmaids "skinny." I laughed in her face and figured if my fat ass was the thing that was going to ruin her wedding then I was determined to keep myself in cheeseburgers and milkshakes to spite her." - Yeehasmush

Have you had an unbelievable wedding party experience? We'd love to hear about it! Tweet us @weddingmagazine or email


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